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Why Doesn't My New Transfer Student Trust Me?

"I have a new transfer student, but we seem to have trust issues. She doesn't cooperate, won't take many of my suggestions, and my method of teaching is constantly questioned. She left her previous teacher, whom she loved, because of a move. I don't know what to do: I'm thinking about letting her go, as I can't work with students who don't trust me."

What to do, indeed.    

First of all, I doubt that trust has much to do with it. The problem is that this student had to leave a teacher she loved and doesn't want to be with the new teacher, even though she recognizes the reason for the change. She's grieving for a truncated relationship with a person she admired, whom she knew for most of her childhood, whose methods she was used to, who she probably even loved, and now she resents anyone she feels is trying to take the place of that adored teacher.

It's easy to forget or underestimate the importance we have in our students' lives. After all, we see lots of violin students, but we need to remember that they see only one violin teacher—and often the same one for many years. As students may stay with us from nursery school through high school, it would be hard to find any adult outside of their families who is such an important and longstanding figure in their lives. Therefore, should it be a surprise that changing teachers can be somewhat traumatic for some of them? 

27/02/2023 17:55:33 Scritto da: Eloise Hellyer
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